A factor that is rarely considered in the circumcision discussion is its longterm effects. What happens down the road when the baby becomes a child and then a teen, a man, a husband and father — a citizen of the world? What comes after circumcision is not a pretty picture.
Where do you think all the yelling and punching and kicking and pushing come from in the only three cultures that circumcise their young (Jewish, English-speaking Christians, Muslims)? The rudeness and lack of empathy? Laughing at the misfortunes of others? Misogyny? Lack of compassion? Or conversely, timidness, avoidance and withdrawal? Sexual dysfunction and incompatibility with the opposite sex? Preoccupation with sex and violence?
A circumcised child is taught in a nonverbal way that nobody cares about them. No one protects them. They were taught that life on planet earth is not fair, that you’d better just get with the program and not cry, not complain, because nobody’s going to hear you or help you anyway. Do not expect love. Do not expect kindness. And do not give love or kindness to others, because you were denied them and you don’t have them to give. In fact, rejoice when others are hurt.
I speak from experience. It happened to me. i am a WASP female, born and raised in Kansas. FGM used to be big business in the USA. MGM still is. Yet I don’t see a big distinction between the two — all children who are circumcised are traumatized… either gender, at any age, wherever they are located on the globe. Circumcision ruins lives.
I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist and have worked with a lot of people on a lot of different forms of trauma. Preverbal, unconscious trauma is the worst form of trauma. Until the mind releases the fear, the person will forever after try to communicate their angst through various means that appear to others to be “irrational”, such as through night terrors, sexual fetishes, violence, sabotaging relationships, etc. They were hurt — and they hurt others.
Circumcision is not based on anything resembling logical, rational, reasonable thought. It induces a state of hypnosis, induced by trauma. Trauma begets trauma — generation after generation. Abuse begets abuse — generation after generation. When abuse is socially sanctioned, then abuse is demanded. Blood ritual sets up a hunger for blood. Advocating for and performing circumcision are forms of “acting out” the abuse. Guilt compels repetition. And so it is passed on. Much healing is needed.
African model and author Waris Dirie says: “Female Genital mutilation has nothing to do with culture, tradition or religion. It is torture and a crime.” She is right, yet I say the same is true of male circumcision.
There is no demand from God for circumcision in the original story of Abraham — read The book of J. Circumcision is not from God, but from man. Jewish scholars know this. Jesus, who understood Judaism well, said, “Moses gave you circumcision (though actually it did not come from Moses, but from the patriarchs).”
Who would cut a child’s healthy genitals if was not already an established practice? No one. No one would cut any child’s genitals. If a doctor or other authority figure was to suggest it, loving parents would take their child into their arms and run as fast and as far as they could in the opposite direction.
Those who advocate circumcision suffer from Munchausen Syndrome… for profit. They are advocating unnecessary harm to healthy genital tissue. And that harm is not limited to the body; it also affects the mind.
Circumcision is, in short, child abuse.
Patricia has now made a website for information about simple yet very effective methods of releasing fear and trauma, as well as a community forum designed for peer support and coaching from professional helpers. So if you were cut or know anyone else who has been, or know a vet or someone with depression — please tell everyone. You can find it all at AuntiePatricia.com.